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1) Why do you communicate? Communication is an act of contribution. Attempt of altering the outside world with what your inner dialogue wants.
2) Why do you want from the world? Love. There exists two type of love - one that can be scaled, one that can't be scaled. The scalable love can be acquired from providing mass value. The unscalable love requires individual attention.
In the world of scalable love, there are exist a sub-category of proxy love. These are fragile and often not real. Not worth chasing after. Now for the non-proxy love that is scalable, you gain them by providing value.
In order to provide value, you need to understand the audience. What do they want. What do they need. What do they not know that they need.
3) You need to flip the script top down. Who are they? What do they want? How can I provide that?
4) other thoughts: putting yourself out in the world is fun. I always want to optimizie for feedback. Real world feedback. That's what agency is all about for me. Doing things that matter then putting it out in the world to see what they think.
This is where self belief is so important to me. Self belief is not something you thrive to achieve but rather the bedrock of living. You believe in what you do, you put it out, you hear feedback. The more people have access to my ideas the better.
It's simply more feedback. feedback is the way you can align yourself with the world.
And there are many other benefits of optimizing for feedback - it helps with determining what you want to believe in. It also puts you in the world. If you are not making impact, it's because 1) You don't know how to solve a valuable problem or 2) You can but no one knows about you. That's it.
You create impact by creating value x visibility. If you can solve problems people care about and make sure the right peopel know it, impact is created.
5) other thoughts: optimizing for feedback isn't always about external comments. You can have the same comments but depending on your mental state you absorb feedback at different rates. How do you optimize for maximum feedback?
The ultimate goal is maximum agency. When you face with things you don't know how to solve, you lean into yourself more. That's agency. That's belief. It is a given to me that I am the best. When I say "best" I just mean I want to listen to myself when the world crumbles down.
That's agency. I am the best. I want to be the best. So take that as a given and believe that. You need to believe that. Then you surround yourself with "truth". When you identify gaps, you then run at it so you can close the gap. The foundation takes some time to build.
The foundation being the belief but it's crucial. You need to find ways to believe. In the beginning it requires faith then you find reasons. Faith is so important. It truly is the bedrock for agency. Once you believe, you then go bigger. Believe in more. Be the best.
Then you achieve true agency. Be in unbothered state of mind. World becomes your playground. You live by what you believe. Never sell out.
6) other thoughts: I fall in love with helpful people (friends, colleagues etc). That's it. I find it waste of time to spend time with people I feel like are not adding value to my life. The bedrock of relationship is exchanging values. None of the sweet talking.
I like providing scalable value for scalable people. Sweet talking is high effort. Changing my behavior to give them favors are none scalable. It's not something I'm willing to do. Those are things I do for my loved ones (family, partner, close friends). None scalable favors I am not willing to do.
B.N I opened my heart to immediately. So did I with B.C. Why? Because they provided scalable value. High performing people always want to learn more. Only treat scalable value. Don't engage in unscalable value.
7) other thoughts: everybody wants to be me. believe that. everybody wants to be me. beleiving in this removes desire of wanting to provide unscalable value to others. It's also connected to idea of agency. In the end what matters is my agency. Everybody wants to be me. Carry yourself that way.
Everybody wants to be me. Think about it.
8) Jonathan Liu said "typing "feel free to unfollow lol" is huge aura loss. just post it, assert your dominance, and MAKE them unfollow. curate an audience of people who genuinely want to see your stuff. This is how I got to 11k followers btw." Don't be afraid to be hated. Don't try to control what others think about you.
"Haha!" "Emojis" "smiles" "good morning in a light voice" these are all different things you do in order to be liked. Don't be afraid to be hated. Everyone wants to be you. Optimize for feedback not affirmations. Put your thoughts and belief out there. Be hated for it. Be loved for it. But don't run away from it.
9) Extention to #8 - nothing is personal. You only matter if you create impact. If you don't, what are you holding any stance for? For scalable love, you are only somebody if you create impact. Don't mistaken your community of unscalable love with scalable love. Only people in my unscalable love is my family and partner. Rest are scalable.
You are only somebody if you provide impact. If not, you just think about finding ways to make impact. Nothing is personal.
10) other thoughts: at work you can optimize for impact. but without a backbone, it's hard to feel a sense of connection. it makes things harder. HZ with TSLA. You need to believe in something. The bigger it is, the easier it gets. Because when you believe in something in front of you and that thing is small, once you achieve it it's hard to find what's next.
But if you have a bigger belief, the next thing becomes more clear. So you should believe in big things. So your next belief has smooth transition - aka agency. But can't be too big where it's irrelevant. Figure it out.
11) other thought: being cool is proxy love. you think it's real but it's not. it's untangible, perishable, accessible. for unscaled love, pay attention to the person. for scaled love, provide value. being cool doesn't belong to neither. it's proxy. it's fake.
12) other thought: talking your way into being loved aint easy. the art of yap. you often mistake that it'll work with everyone. but it requires deep understanding of the audience. it's hard to align your yap topic with the audience. It takes great deep understanding of the audience.
It's not scalable. If you want to be loved from the people around, you need to be attentive individually. You can't scale individual connections. The human nervous system isn’t built for scaled affirmation. We evolved to find meaning in a few close bonds like family, tribe, people whose faces and voices we knew intimately. Ten people knowing you deeply is enough to ground you.
A thousand people knowing you shallowly does nothing but fragment you. At scale, interaction loses weight. A like from a stranger looks identical to a like from your closest friend. The system flattens intimacy until everything is just numbers. And the more you chase those numbers, the more you train yourself to settle for thin echoes of attention instead of the thick texture of real connection.
Here’s the paradox: scale makes you visible but not seen.
13) other thought: the world is big. that's what makes things exciting. The world is ran by agentic beings. Someone created all this infra that I'm using. Someone is becoming actively the person that will build the next generation of infra. The world is built by people full of agency. You are standing on the shoulders of the giants.
It doesn't take will power to live in this world as a happy person. It requires logical belief. My belief vs your belief. Think of Elon, Mark. Different versions of agency going full on combat with each other. I find it fascinating. Same goals, different approaches. The world you will enter is full of the agentic.
They are those who built the world I'm standing on. They are those who will build the world I will stand on. Therefore you always need to be proud of yourself. Be proud of your work. Believe in your work. Believe in yourself. If you don't you need to do whatever it takes to believe in your work and yourself. The battle of agency is a battle of belief.
Nothing more nothing less. The ones who believe and not crumble stays in the arena. Be proud of it. Everyone wants to be me.
14) other thought: be a great communicator. Be better at visualizing problems. Be better at understanding other's feedback. Your loss if you can't take what others are willing to provide.
15) other thought: standrad is to wake up each day exciting about something then go to sleep exhausted. Life should be like that.
16) final thought: the conclusion is that the only tangible thing about you is the problem you solve. There's no need to ponder in the morning or at night. Just think about the problem. Think about the problem in all the different ways. Bottom up, Top down.
How can I solve this problem. How can I believe in myself. Everybody want to be me. Augment your agency. The only tangible thing about you is the problem you solve. The value you create. The scalable love is what you should wake up each day thinking about. And the unscalable love, you just pay attention to individually. Life simply can be broken down to these two things.
1) The scalable love and the 2) Unsclable love. Unscalable love is straightforward. Call your parents, talk to your parents, talk to your loved ones. There is no magic formula. You just pay attention to them. There's no magic you can do that'll serve them all. It is not scalable. It just requires individual attention. So the only uncertainty in life is the scalable love.
Which all you do is just think about it more. Believe in it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6K-DhMTLCxA - talk like you mean it.